（’へ’）Nº237 Sometimes The Best Way To Heal Is With Cold Steel 🔪❤️‍🩹

Hello! I hope you’ve had a good weekend. I’ll cut the the chase on this one:

Recently, I learned about Daniel Pink’s American Regret Project, a quantitative survey, where he was able to slice up the responses by demographics: Do men have different regrets than women? Do older people have different regrets than younger people? He found, for instance, that people with greater degrees of formal education had more career regrets than people with less education. You can even participate in his global version here.

This GQ interview by Clay Skipper with Pink pinned the study & subsequent book’s (The Power of Regret: How Looking Backward Moves Us Forward) big thesis to be that “negative emotions are scary, but instead of running away with them, we should engage with them and use them to learn.”

Pink’s reply?

“Bingo. The trouble is nobody ever teaches us how to do that. If we do that, we’re going to end the bullshittery of “no regrets.”” — Daniel Pink

According to Pink, there are four core regrets: foundational, boldness, moral, and connection:

• 🏗️ Foundational regrets are about stability. “If only I’d done the work. If only I’d done the things that allow me to have some stability in my life.”
• 💪 Boldness regrets are about meaning: “I’m not going to be alive forever, when am I going to do something? If only I had taken the chance. You’re at a juncture…